Her forthcoming book, The End of Sex: How Hookup Culture is Leaving a Generation Unhappy, Sexually Unfulfilled, and Confused about Intimacy, is an exploration of “hookup culture” on American university campuses— secular and religious, public and private.What she discovers in interviews and anonymous surveys of more than 2,500 college students across the United States is that dating is in fact dead—she couldn’t find “a single student who cited a long-term, committed romantic relationship that emerged from a traditional dating trajectory”—and young people don’t like casual sex nearly as much as they pretend to.
(If you don’t believe me, try convincing any college-aged person not to do any of the things above.) When you’re 19, freedom of choice is usually a bad idea, but unfortunately, it’s still preferable to the alternative. Almost a century before Donna Freitas pushed for more restraint, Mead was advocating just the opposite: “It must be realized by any student of civilization that we pay heavily for our rapidly changing civilization; we pay in high proportions of crime and delinquency, we pay in conflicts of youth, we pay in an ever-increasing number of neuroses.
“A mutually invested individual that may or may not evolve into something interesting. I just go along with whatever happens, be it friendship or hookups or whatever.” via GIPHY 11. I don’t have friends to go out and meet new people so that app works fine for me.
I feel like the majority of the people who quip about it being an app strictly for sex are basing it entirely on anecdotal circle jerk nonsense and have never actually used it.” 9. “I was on a business trip in Singapore for three weeks. We recently celebrated our one year anniversary and now live together.” via GIPHY 21. Also I get to see a load of really ripped muscle monkeys. “An actual engaged conversation– someone who’s not going to use stupid pickup lines or ice breakers just to use them.
Since its debut in the app store, Tinder has developed quite the reputation mostly as a breeding ground for one-night stands.
But it’s not all hook-up seekers: The women of Tinder took to Reddit to share why they’re really on the app. “I’m looking for someone cool to hang out with and see if it turns into something.