He suggested I create an advisory board to help me evaluate my invitations and schedule.The goal of the advisory board was to make sure I was not traveling too much.It’s important that unmarried men and women are discipled as men and women and not a generic lump of singleness.From my perspective, Scripture’s emphasis is on being made a man or a woman in the image of God, with a secondary emphasis on how that looks in the various roles and seasons of life.Unmarried men and women are no less masculine or feminine because of being single.Put 1 Corinthians 7 to work in your churches by showing that the church actually unmarried adults who are devoted to the Lord, especially single men.Carolyn Mc Culley is the founder of Citygate Films and the director/producer of the Desiring God short film, The Story of Ian and Larissa.She is also author, with Nora Shank, of the book The Measure of Success: Uncovering the Biblical Perspective on Women, Work, and the Home.
But when church leaders ask unmarried men to take on significant responsibilities, they demonstrate a belief that godly singleness is a tremendous asset to the body of Christ.
I know because I’ve been in both camps, depending on where I am in the cycle of hope or despair and how I am working that out in my soul before God.
Therefore, I have a list of insights about single adults that I’d like to offer to church leaders.
By knowing those relationships where I was to say yes, I knew also where I could say no without guilt.
Years later, when the speaking invitations started to roll in after the publication of my first book, my pastor saw where I could be driven by an open calendar.