However, a divorced man can’t just erase his ex-wife from his memory and his life.
One big thing he's going to consider is if she fits with the life that he envisions for himself, his goals.
She now teaches a series of workshops to help both women and men understand their differences, appreciate what they share, and build stronger, healthier relationships.
The workshops are filled with laughter and cries of recognition as men nod at her descriptions and women say, "So that's why they do that!
Men derive an enormous amount of comfort from a woman's believing in them. When a man commits to a person, he buys the whole package. We don't just say, "That's the way he is." We say, "This is the way he is, and I like these parts, and those parts I'm going to change." Criticism ends more relationships than anything I can think of. Because women tend to respond to criticism, we think criticizing a man will change him.
If she thinks he can do it, he must be able to do it. A man is also looking for a woman who will respond to his playfulness. If someone criticizes his friend, he says "That's just the way he is." He accepts that friendship or business partner or wife or girlfriend all the ways that she is, or all the ways that she isn't. But it just makes a man feel not accepted, like he should keep his distance.