“I grew up with a lot of siblings, so I understood early on how much love one person can give.
"I also grew up with multiple mother figures, so loving more than one person at a time is normal to me.
The following excerpt appeared on the CFC’s blog: Because desire is socially constructed (no matter how much folks justify their limited dating choices based on ‘natural preference’), the fact that we live in a fat-hating culture greatly affects who we’re attracted to, and what we find attractive. We ranged in size and skin tone, from short and petite, to tall and lanky, from light-skinned to dark-skinned, from skinny to fat (me being the fat one), and everything in between. My girl gave us his vital statistics and it turns out the brother is highly intelligent and very accomplished. This I discovered, as I watched him at different points during the evening, strike up a conversation and flirt with every single girl in the crew—except me.
The idea that we’re only attractive within a range of sizes is absurd. The homeboy of one of my homegirls happened to be in the club. My homegirl indicated to me at some point that I should make sure to meet him, because she thought we’d have similar interests.
“If we are honest about our needs from the beginning and refuse to settle for anything other than that, then eventually the universe will give us what we attract." The pair are often mistaken for swingers, whereas polyamory is focused more on love and feelings. "People hate what they don’t understand and isn’t normal.
A lot of people think we are just swingers, which we are not.
We’re looking to make this couple stronger, not weaker.” Despite looking for a third person to join their relationship, Mayra and Justin insist that there is no rush to find their perfect match and hope to start a family one day.
"We need someone with a big heart who won’t get jealous.The pair, both independent contractors, have been open about their quest on Instagram (though haven't used dating apps like Tinder) and have been on a few dates with women, but none have worked out.Unlike other polyamorous relationships, the pair don’t have other partners and are strictly looking for another bisexual female to join them as a triad. It means being able to love your partner enough to understand their need to love others, not only yourself,” said Justin.From the beginning we’ve always been a team and as a team you have to be honest and open with each other."My advice to everyone is to love yourself enough to be honest with yourself about what you need in life to make you happy.