Likewise, with the Friends Trap, just because he’s not into you physically doesn’t make him a jerk.What does make him a jerk in either circumstance is if he strings you along without ever making his true intentions (or non-intentions) clear.(2) Begin to create immediate physical and emotional distance. Once a guy has a fixed opinion of you, it’s very difficult to change it.Is there a way to get out of these traps and still get into a relationship with the same guy? In the case of the Friend Trap: The preferred option should always be to put distance between you.” And your response is to shrug your shoulders and say: “I’m not sure really”, or even just “I’d like to be!
I’m not saying that you can’t be friends, or have casual sex with a guy if you want to.It’s the place where he likes the girl, he’s attracted, but he doesn’t feel enough Connection and Respect (i.e.an alignment of values and standards) to see something more serious happening in the long-term.Some women will be tempted to think that Respect is linked to them having a sexual relationship with him too soon, but that’s not true.Respect isn’t inherently linked to sex, and unless he’s of a very antiquated and out-dated mentality, he’s not going to judge you for having sex with him outside a relationship.