Many women hope to find that “last love,” and others just want to make sure that whatever relationships they enter into are healthy and happy.(Of course, we’re thrilled at all of the younger women who find us, too!But if the definition of their relationship is coming out of fear rather than what they actually want with a particular woman, it can be a set-up for failure.And since there are so many obstacles to dating, some lesbians stay in relationships longer than they want, precisely because they don’t want to date. As a community, we tend to admire lesbians who are in long-term relationships. But we applaud those relationships without even knowing their quality.And make sure to talk with your friends, who are likely around your age – let them know you’re looking.WE CAN RUSH OUR RELATIONSHIPS Why is it that lesbians have such a hard time with dating?
But maybe we should be more concerned about the quality of the relationship, and not assume that being in a relationship is better than being single. For one thing, some lesbians disapprove of other lesbians dating more than one woman.You know, going out with one or more women, maybe having sex, and not having to arrive at any permanent or long-term decisions about the nature of the relationship.Why are we in such a hurry to make the relationship decision?Yes, we do have plenty of younger women, but the core of our audience is women over 40, and we have a good number over 60. Or perhaps it’s because once women get to be over 40, they are mostly done with making the same relationship mistakes over and over again.They are looking for ways to learn new skills that they can take into their relationships.